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Wait – I’m how old?


Today is my birthday, yes I was born on 4th of July, and yes I get fireworks every year.

I had just gotten used to telling people I was 33 (alright I didn’t get used to it, but I didn’t have to think about how old I was before answering – wait is that a sign of old age?). It feels weird to be 34, I don’t feel like I’m in my mid-thirties. But everyone says that don’t they? Seriously though, I don’t always act like a (now) 34-year-old – I can get laughing uncontrollably (Jennie says I giggle), I still think farting is funny, I enjoy cartoons and video games, I like to eat dessert first and often, I like YA books, I like to make different hair styles when I have shampoo in – mostly the mohawk (though with the little hair I have I’m limited), and other things that I’m not going to tell you about.

Here’s what I think has kept me feeling young:

  1. Jennie, she’s my wife and best friend (she’ll be in her twenties until January so that makes me feel young) and we laugh everyday together.
  2. I hang out with 8th graders as my job for 9 months out of the year – Our sense of humor overlap (see “I think farting is funny” above).
  3. I don’t take myself too seriously (actually I try not to take most things too seriously, it can be annoying to others)
  4. That’s all I can think of right now (I’m also easily distracted)

There are some things I’m looking forward to about getting old:

  1. Yelling at kids to “Stay off my lawn” (I practice inside sometimes)
  2. Being a curmudgeon
  3. Having a good reason for being forgetful.

This afternoon we’ll go get a good spot on the Eastern Prom for all the festivities (Bob Marley is performing stand-up, Portland Symphony Orchestra is playing) where we’ll eat a sushi picnic dinner from Benkay (so delicious) and birthday cake!

Happy Fourth to you!

How about some REAL news please?


This was born of a discussion on Facebook.

It is important for the people who live in the White House (whoever they are) to be able to take a break, just like everyone else. They work harder than us, have more responsibility than us, and more stress than us – their vacations should reflect that. Mrs. O said that we should visit the gulf-while she was there, so ‘yet they go to Maine’ isn’t really relevant they were there, and do you think that was really relaxing for them? {Not to mention the fact that they got grief for that trip too click here for that story} Being in the gulf shows the effort to make that connection – no, and I mean NO government official has anything in common with the ‘average’ American, they live differently, they have to in the case of the first family’s case.

And the Bush’s don’t own the part of Africa that the American people paid for Laura and daughters took a safari in 07′ That seems ‘insensitive’ in a time of war to me.

Where is/was the outrage over the lack of sensitivity over declaring “Mission Accomplished’ when it was so obviously not? Where is the outrage when Palin spend inordinate amounts of campaign money on clothes? Where is the outrage when the Repub’s were creating un-needed fear by making up ‘death panels”? Where is the outrage over denying rights to gay and lesbians? Where is the outrage over all the ridiculous party of NO? Stop acting like children please elected officials (on both sides, though the right seems a bit more belligerent about it) and work together!

With all the other issues going on in our country and the world Mrs. O’s trip to Spain is NOT NEWS – it is an opportunity (and Repub’s can’t seem to pass them up, no matter how trivial) to criticize. If the same effort was put into legislating I bet we could get a lot accomplished.

RELATED LINKS

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=129084360

http://news.yahoo.com/s/yblog_upshot/20100805/pl_yblog_upshot/first-lady-under-fire-for-her-glitzy-spanish-vacation

Jiffy Lube Sucks


The store # is 442 and is on Main Street in South Portland, Maine. (207) 773-4950. Larry I believe was the person I spoke with at the store.

A copy of the message I sent to Jiffy Lube corporate:

I brought my wife’s car in for an oil change today [July 23, 2010] and encountered some terrible customer service. I was checked in by Larry (I believe this name is right) and he showed me the cabin air filters and said that they could be replaced for thirty dollars for the pair. I agreed and went back to the waiting area. I was called up to pay given the total of  $77.19 which was higher than I expected but I know that there are fees and taxes so I paid. My invoice was given to me AFTER I paid, I got into my car and inspected the receipt. The filters were on there for $39.99. I went back and said to Larry,
“You had said these were 30 for the pair”
He said ‘Yeah I said 39.99 for the pair.”
I replied “No, you said 30 for the pair.” this repeats a couple times until:
He told me “I’ve been doing this for a number of years I said 39.99”
I told him that I had been speaking and listening for a number of years and heard him say 30. He was very condescending and obviously tried to first ignore me and repeat what he wanted me to think he said (Yeah I said 39.99 for the pair) and then to make it sound ludicrous that he could have made a mistake.
Needless to say I, nor any of my family will be back. I will be relating this story on all of the social media sites I am a part of and emailing my contact list the story. There are cheaper, faster places to get my oil changed that treat their customers the right way – like they pay the bills. I only went to Jiffy Lube because I knew they vacuumed the car out and I was willing to pay  more (about $15 more than Prompto)  this one time so that I didn’t have to.

I brought my wife’s car in for an oil change today and encountered some terrible customer service. I was checked in by Larry (I believe this name is right) and he showed me the cabin air filters and said that they could be replaced for thirty dollars for the pair. I agreed and went back to the waiting area. I was called up to pay given the total of  $77.19 which was higher than I expected but I know that there are fees and taxes so I paid. My invoice was given to me AFTER I paid, I got into my car and inspected the receipt. The filters were on there for $39.99. I went back and said to Larry, “You had said these were 30 for the pair” He said ‘Yeah I said 39.99 for the pair.”I replied “No, you said 30 for the pair.” this repeats a couple times until: He told me “I’ve been doing this for a number of years I said 39.99″I told him that I had been speaking and listening for a number of years and heard him say 30. He was very condescending and obviously tried to first ignore me and repeat what he wanted me to think he said (Yeah I said 39.99 for the pair) and then to make it sound ludicrous that he could have made a mistake. Needless to say I, nor any of my family will be back. I will be relating this story on all of the social media sites I am a part of and emailing my contact list the story. There are cheaper, faster places to get my oil changed that treat their customers the right way – like they pay the bills. I only went to Jiffy Lube because I knew they vacuumed the car out and I was willing to pay  more (about $15 more than Prompto)  this one time so that I didn’t have to.

This would have been a different experience if Larry had just said “I’m sorry sir I misquoted the price” and either refunded the $10 or offered a discount on a future visit (to give them a chance to redeem themselves or rather himself, everyone else was very polite).

Dealing with the mantra of “I don’t care”


I sent a student to the office today. Well, I gave them the choice to follow directions or go to the office, they picked the office. What the student did doesn’t really matter, that I was told that I am ‘pathetic’ doesn’t bother me, and having the student tell me that they don’t like me and hasn’t all year doesn’t bother me. What bothers me is the mantra of ‘I don’t care’ that I was up against.

  • I don’t care that my comments about the performers were rude,
  • I don’t care if I get in trouble,
  • I don’t care about filling out a behavior slip,
  • I don’t care about not being able to go on the last field trips,
  • I don’t care if I end up in Juvenile or not,
  • I don’t care about my life.

BAM!TKOI’m out.

I like to think of myself as someone who is not intimidating and easy to talk to and a good listener and non-judgmental, and open to everyone’s perspective. When a student has a good point, even if I don’t agree with it, or it may not be expressed appropriately, I acknowledge the validity of their thoughts. So when someone just shuts down it I get stymied at first.

I did my best; I provided examples of times when it seemed like the student did care. I talked about how choices, especially in the years to come, will directly affect their life. I made the case for not juvie vs. juvie and spoke about how I know people who experienced that and that this student did not want that. Eventually I admitted that I couldn’t make anyone care, and that I hoped that something to care about was found and that the move (hey wait. . . ) would provide a chance to find something to care about.

It could be that this was all a way of distancing themselves from everything to make leaving easier. Part of me hopes that this is the case. What scares me is the kids that aren’t moving away that I hear this from, and there are too many. The apathy is staggering. If you read my paper, Visual Literacy + Textual Literacy = Students Learning, Enjoying, and Making Meaning in regards to what they are Reading, then you know that if we can get kids interested then most of our challenges with behavior and buy-in and achievement would become moot.

So, if anyone has any advice about how to break kids out of the “I don’t care” frame of mind, or deal with that as an answer to everything, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE share it.  I do care, and it saddens me to see someone shut down like that and not be open when someone (that’s me!) is trying to help.

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Education: The Rewards of Teaching – TIME


Education: The Rewards of Teaching – TIME.

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Puddle thinking


“Imagine a puddle waking up one morning and thinking, “This is an interesting world I find myself in, an interesting hole I find myself in, fits me rather neatly, doesn’t it? In fact it fits me staggeringly well, must have been made to have me in it!” This is such a powerful idea that as the sun rises in the sky and the air heats up and as, gradually, the puddle gets smaller and smaller, it’s still frantically hanging on to the notion that everything’s going to be alright, because this world was meant to have him in it, was built to have him in it; so the moment he disappears catches him rather by surprise. I think this may be something we need to be on the watch out for.”

Douglas Adams

Barking at the door


This is my dog Henry. Yes I know he’s super cute. He is also super well-behaved. And super awesome. In fact, Awesome is his middle name, seriously it is. Jennie gave the cat her middle name, Daisy Ann, one day as she was yelling at her it just came our, anyway that being the case, I decided that it was only fair that I got to give the dog his. He isn’t without his quirks though. To exit the kitchen he has to take the long way via around the table. He believes he is much smaller than his 90 lbs or so and makes a habit of jumping on our laps while we are on the couch. He leans; if you are petting him make sure to bend your knees and plant your feet, otherwise you’re getting pushed over. He isn’t trying to push you over he just likes to cuddle. Another peculiarity came to my attention the last few times I’ve let him in from the back yard. He will usually bark once or twice to let us know he’s ready to come in. The funny thing is, when I go to let him in, he’s facing away from the door like he’s trying to figure out who just barked and seems surprised to see me at the door! He comes in and sits down, a habit we got him into during wet/muddy weather, and I give him a hug, which he loves and snuggles his nose and face into me. The hug serves two purposes; 1. It’s a hug, he’s cute and likes it, 2. Because he likes it he is very responsive to being called in if he needs to come in before he’s done doing whatever it is he busies himself with (it probably involves patrolling the yard in his self-appointed role of ‘hater of the squirells’). I believe that he is hurt if we are in a rush and just have him come in without a hug or some attention. I mean, just look at those eyes.

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